# attachmentstyle

First, seggs is a code word you can hopefully figure out because I’m not about to get kicked off. Secondly, there ARE other reasons like feeling like their husband doesn’t help them with the workload, or affairs, etc. BUT this is THE biggest reason by far. Calm down and breathe, I know it may be hard to hear and you’ll get triggered. But I am here to help you start getting your needs met. Don’t shoot the messanger. I am direct and I make no apologies for my assertiveness. I’m a coach not a therapist. #Love #relationships #intimacy #marriage #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

haha! i have issues with hyperindependence and not trusting anyone! lol! #avoidantattachment #avoidantattachmentstyle #attachmentstyle #relationships #Love #dating #notworthit

The extremely predictable relationship trajectory of the DA. #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

The answer so many are looking for. Seek God’s character. Do not rely on your own interpretation of scripture. That was my downfall. I had to seek extremely knowledgeable biblical scholars who have spent their lives, studying scripture, especially the old testament. I had absolutely no idea what some of that scripture meant I always had a view of vengeful, punishing God. Boy was I so wrong! Those were lies from the enemy! #Love #Relationships #AttachmentStyle #Christian #God #Spirituality #Faith #FY #ForYouPage

Common things the DA will say in the dating phase of relationships. #Love #attachmentstyle #relationships #fyp #foryoupage

If your spouse is a DA you feel extremely neglected and downright invisible most of the time. I can help. #Love #attachmentstyle #relationships #fyp #foryoupage

The biggest need of the fearful avoidant inside of a romantic relationship #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

Anxious people (AP & FA/AP) only want co-regulation and they struggle to self- regulate. Avoidant people (DA & FA/DA) only want each partner to self-regulate and don’t want to participate in co-regulation. A healthy relationship has BOTH equally. In a secure relationship, your partner’s presence is soothing, not triggering. Attachment security is the best gift you can ever give yourself. #Love #attachmentstyle #relationships #marriage #coregulation #fyp #foryoupage

for the avoidant 💌 #poetrytok #poetry #avoidantattachment #attachmentstyle #poem #Relationship #BookTok #booksthatmademecry

They pushed you away because you did everything right! #ghosted #rejected #rejection #dumped #datingcoach #avoidantattachment #attachmentstyle #datingtips #datingadvice

The DA’s biggest need inside a relationship #Love #attachmentstyle #relationships #fyp #foryoupage

What does a dismissive avoidant need in order to make changes to be a good partner? 2 things… #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #personaldevelopment #fyp #foryoupage

Have you been struggling to connect with an avoidantly attached man? Episode 1 ▶️ @Adam Lane Smith | Psychology #avoidantattachment #attachmentstyle #attachment #longvideo #longvideos

Why The dismissive avoidant cheats inside of their romantic relationship #Love #affair #cheater #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

The science couldn’t be more clear that relational stress (stress from relationship hurts), wreak havoc on our bodies. Healing my attachment brought profound physical healing to my body. #Love #relationships #AttachmentStyle #fyp #foryoupage

If your DA partner refuses to discuss any problems—here is what to do. #Love #relationships #boundaries #attachmentstyle #boundaries #fyp #foryoupage

If they stop showing interest, what’s your next move? #Love #relationships #dating #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

We absolutely cannot EVER group FAs and DAs together. They, by nature, are completely different beings. Both may pull away under stress, but for drastically different reasons. Knowing the “why” is critical to making changes to make sure you are supporting your partner and/or having proper boundaries. #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #coaching #fyp #foryoupage

The very predictable DA dating pattern. #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

Forgiving what you can’t forget. #Love #relationships #forgiveness #attachmentstyle #coach #fyp #foryoupage

The poor FA makes a security blanket out of the red flags 🚩 #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

The FA really wants love and connection, but they deeply mistrust everyone! It is by far the most painful attachment style to have. #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

Replying to @Enid so common yet so frustrating! The DA never brings up problems because they can’t be vulnerable #Love #Relationships #AttachmentStyle #FYP #ForYouPage

What it really takes to make it work with the DA ❤️ #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage https://dating-decoder.mykajabi.com/offers/Eh87pgmC

Let them. #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #dating #marriage #fyp #foryoupage

Things our exes did and we still stayed 😭. Our Fearful avoidance was baaaaad. #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

How to stoo obsessing romantically! #attachmentstyle #datingadvice #relationshipadvice #datingtips #datingcoach #relationshipcoaching

The Dismissive Avoidant and the “blinders effect”. #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

Things secure people do, that insecure people cannot do inside of romantic relationships. #Love #AttachmentStyle #Relationships #FYP #ForYouPage

🚨LIVE Program for anxious lovers - Enrolling now! LINK IN BIO🚨 When triggered, anxiously-attached lovers tend to over-focus on the negatives or even look for problems in their relationship in an attempt to prevent their biggest fear from happening; abandonment.  Where does this come from? They typically grew up with inconsistent and unreliable parents, leading them as children to wonder: “Can I depend on you?” “Do you love me?” They never felt *quite* safe or secure growing up, creating abandonment beliefs:  “People aren’t going to be there for me.” “I’m not worthy of their love.” If left unresolved, these beliefs get carried INTO one’s adulthood. Deep down, anxious partners subconsciously hope their partners will fill the void by consistently reassuring and loving them, no matter what (even if the behaviors are detrimental).  “If I point out problems and they still love me, that means I am lovable, and they won’t leave me.” Most partners will do their best to reassure their love, but this isn’t healthy or sustainable. It will ultimately wear down the relationship, which sadly CONFIRMS anxious lovers’ worst fear; abandonment. The good news is that attachment styles can change. Some things you can do: - Making sense of yourself by connecting past experiences with current behaviors. - Learning how to soothe our anxiety. - Developing a loving relationship with our inner child. - Learning how to communicate our feelings/needs in a secure way. ——- Do you want to break your anxious patterns and become secure in yourself and therefore in your relationship? 🌟Then the 'Secure Love Program' is for you!🌟 * LIVE workshops + tools + homework. * 1:1 Private Coaching with me. * Community with other like-minded people. Limited spots. Starting soon.  APPLY + BOOK A CONSULT CALL, USING LINK IN BIO. . . . #anxiousattachment #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #relationshipissues #attachmenttheory #relationshipproblems #datingproblems #attachmentissues #attachmentstyle

Fearful avoidant attachment and their biggest need in relationships. #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

The basics of dismissive avoidant attachment. These folks will leave you feeling confused and alone. 😭💔 But I help people overcome this challenge every day! #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

Listen to this week’s episode of Problem Solved where I help a caller that’s struggling with their avoidant attachment style. #MentalHealth #therapy #attachmentstyle #avoidantattachment #anxiousattachment #relationshiptips #dating

The superpower of the DA 💔😭#Love #Relationships #AttachmentStyle #FYP #ForYouPage

The AP-DA dynamic is so painful. The poor AP feels abandoned and insignificant and the DA feels criticized and defective. The cycle can be broken with the right tools. #Love #attachmentstyle #relationships #fyp #foryoupage

I’m sorry, but I’ve never heard a single incident where a dismissive avoidant felt like marriage counseling benefited them. Obviously, this could be a selection bias, but I do believe that dismissive of individuals get very overwhelmed inside of the session, and often go into a freeze response, where they can’t learn anything. In my groups, they learn bite-size chunks, and they learn the tools to put gas in their car to start the needs of their partners. # #AttachmentStyle #Relationships #DismissiveAvoidant #fyp ##ForYouPage

Not everyone is a narcissist, ok? #Love #Relationships #AttachmentStyle #FYP #ForYouPage

The fearful avoidant and the moving goal post 😭💔#Love #Relationships #AttachmentStyle #coach #fyp #foryoupage

The DA and the vulnerability hangover effect #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

How to guarantee the DA shutdown. We are without power from the KY tornados and decided to take off in the camper. Sorry for the noise! #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

Ok ladies, this is important. Seggs is the only need we can’t meet outside the marriage. When you abandon your husband sexually, you are stealing his sense of connection and safety. #Love #intimacy #marriage #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

Why the DA runs away from conflict. #Love #attachmentstyle #relationships #coach #fyp #foryoupage

How the dismissive avoidant processes emotions #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

The biggest gap imaginable. But it can be fixed ❤️. Last chance to sign up for tomorrow’s group. See the link in my bio! #Love #attachmentstyle #relationships #fyp #foryoupage

Replying to @Roots beauty no definitely not sis. Not one bit. What is on the other side of walking away can be life changing. #Love #Abuse #AttachmentStyle #Relationships #FYP #ForYouPage

Red flags in online dating profiles. Stay safe ✌🏻 #Love #dating #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

It eventually destroys the relationship. #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage

Respect for men is everything. #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #men #respect #fyp #foryoupage

Adverse childhood experiences can end in complex trauma (cPTSD) — however, they can also end in resilience. The “secret ingredient” is a healthy attachment #attachment #attachmentstyle #trauma #traumatok #cptsd #childhoodtrauma

The predictable relationship trajectory of the anxious preoccupied person #Love #relationships #attachmentstyle #fyp #foryoupage