Coach Sarah Yoo

🚨LIVE Group Program for anxious lovers - Enrolling now! LINK IN BIO 🚨 It's common for Anxious (Pursuers) and Avoidant (Distancers) partners to be in a relationship because their deepest fears are confirmed in each other.  Pursuers' deepest fear is that they are too much, aren't good enough, and will be abandoned. In contrast, distancers fear they'll be overwhelmed, smothered, or controlled if they get too close to people.  If you struggle with this, please know that you aren't alone, and with willingness and effort from both partners, it can be changed. Are you the ANXIOUS partner? Here are 3 more tips for you: 1. Learn about Avoidant Behavior: - Recognizing and understanding where their behaviors are coming from can help you take things less personally. 2. Bring the focus back to yourself: - Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and needs, and do your best to prioritize yourself! Anxious partners often self-abandon during the cycle.  3. Be there for yourself: - You're likely struggling in this cycle; it's a difficult place to be! Think about how you'd support a good friend if they're going through a tough time. Do your best to show up with similar compassion for yourself.  (Tips are focused on anxious partners, not because they are the only ones doing the 'work' but because this page is dedicated to anxious partners. Both partners must put in work.) NOTES:  - This doesn't apply to healthy distancing. In some situations, moving away from heated conversations might be the best decision. - This doesn't apply to abusive relationships nor encouraging for you to stay in unfulfilling/unhealthy relationship. ______ P.S. Are you the anxious partner and want to break your anxious patterns and become secure in yourself and, therefore, in your relationship? 🌟Then the 'Secure Love Program' is for you!🌟 * LIVE workshops + tools + homework. * 1:1 Private Coaching with me. Limited spots (Small group) Starting soon.  BOOK A CONSULT CALL - LINK IN BIO. #anxiousattachment #fearfulavoidant #avoidantattachment #relationshipanxiety #relationshipissues #relationshipproblems  #attachmenttrauma #anxiousavoidanttrap #pushandpull

🚨LIVE Program for Anxious lovers - Enrolling now: LINK IN BIO🚨When triggered, anxiously attached lovers often react aggressively because they are hyper-focused on preventing their biggest fear from happening: abandonment. They'll do whatever it takes, even if their protest behaviors are detrimental (pushing their partners away or putting them on a spot to see how they respond). Where does this come from? They typically grew up with inconsistent and unreliable parents, leading them as children to wonder: "Can I depend on you?" "Do you love me?" They never felt *quite* safe or secure growing up, creating abandonment beliefs:  "People aren't going to be there for me." "I'm not worthy of their love." If left unresolved, these beliefs get carried INTO one's adulthood. Deep down, anxious partners subconsciously hope their partners will fill the void by consistently loving them, no matter what (even if the behaviors are detrimental).  "If I push them away or act out and they still love me, that means I am lovable and that they won't leave me." However, this is neither a healthy way to heal nor sustainable; it'll ultimately wear down or break the relationship. The good news is that attachment styles are not permanent and can change. Some things to help you shift from anxious to secure: - Making the connection between past experiences and current behaviors. - Learning to provide love and acceptance for ourselves. - Learning how to soothe our anxiety. - Developing a loving relationship with our inner child. - Learning how to communicate our feelings/needs in a secure way. —— Do you want to go from anxious to secure? Then, this program is for you!! • Live workshops, practical guidance + Homework • 1:1 Private Coaching with me. • Community with other like-minded people Limited spots. Starting soon. Book a consult call with me to see if it’s the right fit for you! LINK IN BIO . . . . #anxiousattachment #fearfulavoidant  #relationshipanxiety #attachmenttrauma #anxietyhealing #relationshipproblems #datingproblems #attachmentissues

🚨LIVE Group Program for anxious lovers - Enrolling now! LINK IN BIO🚨When triggered, anxiously attached lovers often react aggressively because they are hyper-focused on preventing their biggest fear from happening: abandonment. They’ll do whatever it takes, even if their protest behaviors are detrimental (threatening their partners being one of them). Where does this come from? They typically grew up with inconsistent and unreliable parents, leading them as children to wonder: “Can I depend on you?” “Do you love me?” “What do I have to do so that you love me?” They never felt *quite* safe or secure growing up, creating abandonment beliefs:  “People aren’t going to be there for me.” “I’m not worthy of their love.” If left unresolved, these beliefs get carried INTO one’s adulthood. Deep down, anxious partners subconsciously hope their partners will fill the void by consistently loving them, no matter what (even if the behaviors are detrimental).  “If I push them away or act out and they still love me, that means I am lovable and that they won’t leave me.” However, this is neither a healthy way to heal nor sustainable; it’ll ultimately break the relationship that anxious lovers were hoping to save.  The good news is that attachment styles are not permanent and can change. Here’s what helped my clients become secure: - Understanding our attachment style and connecting our past with current behaviors. - Providing love and compassion for ourselves. - Soothing and regulating our feelings. - Having healthy boundaries. - Communicating our feelings/needs securely. Ready to let go of anxious patterns and become secure?  🌟Then, the Secure Love Program is FOR YOU!🌟 • LIVE workshops + tools+ homework • 1:1 Private Coaching with me. • Community with other like-minded people Limited spots - STARTS IN APRIL! APPLY NOW - LINK IN THE BIO #anxiousattachment #fearfulavoidant #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #relationshipissues #relationshipproblems #datinganxiety #attachmenttrauma

If anxious partners could have the words for their hearts…. (please share so others can see ❤️) If you struggle with anxious tendencies in your relationship, please know that it doesn't make you a bad person. You've learned the habits because they helped you cope in some way, meaning… they can be shifted. This post doesn't condone or encourage unhealthy behaviors or tell anyone to neglect their needs. Each partner must actively take responsibility for their actions, communicate better, and work on building healthier habits for a secure relationship. The hope behind this letter is; 1. For the partners to better understand their anxious lovers. Deep down, they are terrified of being inadequate and being abandoned. 2. For the anxious partners to understand where their actions might be coming from so that they can compassionately guide themselves towards growth. I hope this encourages you to allow compassion and understanding to guide interactions with yourself and your partner. Here's to understanding ❤️ -------- Are you an anxious lover? Do you want to learn how to communicate like this, to open up conversations rather than push your partners away? Ready to become secure and confident in yourself? Come and join the 'Secure Love Program.' Book a consultation call to see if the program is the right fit for you! (Link in bio) • Lessons, practical guidance + Homework • 1:1 coaching with me me. • Community with other like-minded people LINK IN BIO . . . . #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #dismissiveavoidant #disorganizedattachment #attachmentissues #communicationiskey #relationshipproblems #relationshiphealing #nonviolentcommunication

🚨LIVE Group Program for anxious lovers - Enrolling now! LINK IN BIO🚨 It’s common for Anxious (Pursuers) and Avoidant (Distancers) partners to be in a relationship because their deepest fears are confirmed in each other.  Pursuers' deepest fear is that they are too much, aren't good enough, and will be abandoned. While, distancers fear they'll be overwhelmed, smothered, or controlled if they get too close to people.  If you struggle with this, please know that you aren't alone, and with willingness and effort from both partners, it can be changed. Are you the ANXIOUS partner? Here are 3 more tips for you: 1. Learn about Avoidant Behavior: * Recognizing and understanding where their behaviors are coming from can help you take things less personally. 2. Bring the focus back to yourself: * Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and needs, and do your best to prioritize yourself! Anxious partners often self-abandon during the cycle.  3. Be there for yourself: * You're likely struggling in this cycle; it's a difficult place to be! Think about how you'd support a good friend if they're going through a tough time. Do your best to show up with similar compassion for yourself.  (Tips are focused on anxious partners, not because they are the only ones doing the 'work' but because this page is dedicated to anxious partners. Both partners must put in work.) NOTES:  - This doesn't apply to healthy distancing. In some situations, taking a break and moving away from heated conversations can be GOOD for the relationship. —This doesn't apply to abusive relationships nor encouraging for you to stay in unfulfilling/unhealthy relationship. ______ P.S. Are you the anxious partner and want to break your anxious patterns and become secure in yourself and, therefore, in your relationship? 🌟Then the 'Secure Love Program' is for you!🌟 * LIVE workshops + tools + homework. * 1:1 Private Coaching with me. Limited spots (Small group) Starting soon.  BOOK A CONSULT CALL - LINK IN BIO. #anxiousattachment #fearfulavoidant #avoidantattachment #anxiousavoidanttrap #pushandpull #relationshipanxiety #relationshipissues #relationshipproblems #attachmenttrauma #anxietyhealing

If left unresolved, our attachment wounds will get carried into our adult relationships, where we repeat the same patterns until we can resolve them. Deep down, anxiously attached partners subconsciously hope their partners will heal their wounds by consistently loving them and showing up the way they wished their parents did for them. "If I can make sure they're happy with me, they'll be there for me, love me, and accept me as I am. And I'll finally feel enough." Although healthy, secure partners can help us on our healing journey, only relying on them is not healthy or sustainable. It'll likely push them away, as they'll feel defeated and inadequate to love you the way you want them to be loved. The good news is that attachment styles are not permanent and can change. Some things you can do to heal the attachment wounds within: - Making the connection between past experiences and current behaviors. - Learning to provide love and acceptance for ourselves. - Learning how to soothe our anxiety. - Developing a loving relationship with our inner child. - Learning how to communicate our feelings/needs in a secure way. NOTE This doesn't apply to abusive or unhealthy relationships where anyone (no matter their attachment style) would feel anxious due to unhealthy behaviors from their partners. _______ Ready to go from anxious to secure? 🚨LIVE Secure Love Program🚨 • Live workshops + tools • 1:1 Private Coaching with me. • Community with other like-minded people 2 SPOTS LEFT Start next week. LINK IN BIO . . . . #anxiousattachment #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #attachmenttrauma #anxietyhealing #attachmentissues #relationshipproblems #anxiousattachmentstyle

You are not alone. Change is possible & it starts with awareness ❤️ . #anxiousattachment #insecureattachment #fearfulavoidant #secureattachment #emotionalhealing #relationshipanxiety #anxiousattachmentstyle #anxiouspeople

🚨LIVE Program for Pursuer/Anxious lovers - Enrolling now: LINK IN BIO 🚨 Even though distancers* can appear cold or unbothered, deep down, most feel anxious and overwhelmed during conflicts (* also called ‘Avoidants’). They withdraw not because they want to hurt you but because they often don’t know HOW to deal with their big feelings. They learned to withdraw to protect themselves; hiding behind a wall is THEIR VERSION OF A SAFE SPACE. My hope with this post is not to encourage anyone to stay in unhealthy relationships. Rather, I hope this will help some of you understand your distancer/avoidant partners with compassion, which will help you deal with conflicts better as the Pursuer/Anxious partner. It’s common for Pursuers (Anxious) to be in a relationship with Distancers (avoidants) because their deepest fears are confirmed in each other. Pursuers’ deepest fear is that they are too much, aren’t good enough, and will be abandoned. Distancers’ deepest fear is that they’ll be overwhelmed, controlled, or smothered if they get too close to people. In such relationships, the Pursuer-Distancer Cycle is a common pattern in which many couples get stuck, which can drain or break many relationships. If you struggle with this, please know that you aren’t alone, and with willingness and effort, it can be changed. NOTES: - This doesn’t apply to healthy distancing. In some situations, taking a break and moving away from heated conversations can be GOOD for the relationship. - This doesn’t apply to abusive relationships or encouraging anyone to stay in unhealthy/unfulfilling relationships - you may need to re-evaluate it. ______ P.S. Are you the Pursuer (Anxious) partner? Do you want to break your anxious patterns and become secure in yourself and, therefore, in your relationship? 🌟Then the ‘Secure Love Program’ is for you!🌟 * LIVE workshops + tools + homework. * 1:1 Private Coaching with me. * Community with other like-minded people. Limited spots. Starting soon. BOOK A CONSULT CALL (LINK IN BIO)
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This is a very common struggle for those with anxious attachment style. Growing up with inconsistent or unreliable parents, they often wondered: "Can I depend on you?" "Do you love me?" "What do I have to do so that you love me?" They never felt *quite* safe or secure growing up, which created abandonment beliefs such as: "People aren't going to be there for me." "I'm not worthy of their love." Over time, they learned to associate these feelings with love. Deep down, anxiously-attached partners (subconsciously) hope their partners will heal this wound by consistently loving them and showing up the way they wished their parents did for them. "If I can make sure they're happy with me, they'll be there for me, love me, and accept me as I am. And I'll finally feel enough." Although healthy, secure partners can help us on our healing journey, only relying on them is not healthy or sustainable. It'll push them away, as they'll feel defeated and inadequate to love you the way you want them to be loved.  The good news is that attachment styles are not permanent and can change. Some things you can do to heal the attachment wounds within: - Making the connection between past experiences and current behaviors. - Learning to provide love and acceptance for ourselves. - Learning how to soothe our anxiety. - Developing a loving relationship with our inner child. - Learning how to communicate our feelings/needs securely. NOTES: * This doesn't apply to abusive or unhealthy relationships where anyone (no matter their attachment style) would feel uneasy/anxious due to their partners' behaviors.  * This isn’t the only reason behind the obsessive behaviour. _______ Ready to go from anxious to secure? 🚨LIVE Secure Love Program🚨 • Live workshops + tools • 1:1 Private Coaching with me. • Community with other like-minded people 2 SPOTS LEFT Start next week. LINK IN BIO #anxiousattachment #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #attachmenttrauma #anxietyhealing #attachmentissues #anxiousattachmentstyle #anxiousmind #obsessivelove #fearofabandonment

🚨LIVE Program for anxious lovers - Enrolling now! LINK IN BIO🚨 When triggered, anxiously-attached lovers tend to over-focus on the negatives or even look for problems in their relationship in an attempt to prevent their biggest fear from happening; abandonment.  Where does this come from? They typically grew up with inconsistent and unreliable parents, leading them as children to wonder: “Can I depend on you?” “Do you love me?” They never felt *quite* safe or secure growing up, creating abandonment beliefs:  “People aren’t going to be there for me.” “I’m not worthy of their love.” If left unresolved, these beliefs get carried INTO one’s adulthood. Deep down, anxious partners subconsciously hope their partners will fill the void by consistently reassuring and loving them, no matter what (even if the behaviors are detrimental).  “If I point out problems and they still love me, that means I am lovable, and they won’t leave me.” Most partners will do their best to reassure their love, but this isn’t healthy or sustainable. It will ultimately wear down the relationship, which sadly CONFIRMS anxious lovers’ worst fear; abandonment. The good news is that attachment styles can change. Some things you can do: - Making sense of yourself by connecting past experiences with current behaviors. - Learning how to soothe our anxiety. - Developing a loving relationship with our inner child. - Learning how to communicate our feelings/needs in a secure way. ——- Do you want to break your anxious patterns and become secure in yourself and therefore in your relationship? 🌟Then the 'Secure Love Program' is for you!🌟 * LIVE workshops + tools + homework. * 1:1 Private Coaching with me. * Community with other like-minded people. Limited spots. Starting soon.  APPLY + BOOK A CONSULT CALL, USING LINK IN BIO. . . . #anxiousattachment #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #relationshipissues #attachmenttheory #relationshipproblems #datingproblems #attachmentissues #attachmentstyle

🚨LIVE Program for anxious lovers - Enrolling now! LINK IN BIO 🚨 Anxiously-attached lovers typically grew up with inconsistent and unreliable parents, leading them as children to wonder: “Can I depend on you?” “Do you love me?” “What do I have to do so that you love me?” They never felt *quite* safe or secure growing up, creating abandonment beliefs:  “People aren’t going to be there for me.” “I’m not worthy of their love.” If left unresolved, these beliefs get carried INTO one’s adulthood. Deep down, anxious partners subconsciously hope their partners will fill the void by loving them the way they wished their parents did.    Although our partners can play a significant part in our healing journey, ONLY relying on them is neither healthy nor sustainable.  The good news is we can change.  Here are the most significant things that helped me and my clients break their anxious patterns and become secure: - Understanding our attachment style and connecting our past with current behaviors. - Providing love and compassion for ourselves. - Soothing and regulating our feelings. - Having healthy boundaries. - Communicating our feelings/needs securely. ______ Ready to let go of anxious patterns and become secure?  Then, the Secure Love Program is FOR YOU! • LIVE workshops + tools+ homework • 1:1 Private Coaching with me. • Community with other like-minded people Limited spots - starts soon Apply for a consult call - LINK IN BIO . . . . #anxiousattachment #fearfulavoidant #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #relationshipissues #relationshipproblems #relationshipcoaching #hypervigilance #attachmenttrauma #anxietyhealing

🚨LIVE Group Program for anxious lovers - Enrolling now! LINK IN BIO 🚨Many anxious lovers want commitment early from their partners because, deep down, they’re hoping to heal past wounds of abandonment. You see, anxious lovers typically grew up with inconsistent and unreliable parents, leading them as children to wonder: “Can I depend on you?” “Do you love me?” “I must not be lovable since you aren’t there for me.” They never felt *quite* safe, secure or unconditionally loved growing up, creating abandonment beliefs such as: “People aren’t going to be there for me.” “I’m not worthy of their love.” (NOTE: The source isn’t limited to one’s parents. It can be from other experiences; e.g. friendships, past romantic relationships etc).  If left unresolved, these beliefs get carried INTO one’s adulthood. So, as adults, anxious partners subconsciously think: “If they commit to me, that means they won’t leave me and that I’m worthy of their love.” But this reassurance only helps them temporarily, as they are not addressing the core issue: fear of abandonment and self-worth issues.  Although our partners can help us on our healing journey, anxious lovers need to do their healing work by getting to the root cause of their patterns.  The good news is that change is possible with consistency and persistence.  Here are things that helped me and my clients create change: - Understanding our attachment style and connecting our past with current behaviors. - Providing love and compassion for ourselves. - Soothing and regulating our feelings. - Having healthy boundaries. - Communicating our feelings/needs securely. Ready to let go of anxious patterns and become secure?  Introducing... 🌟LIVE Secure Love Group Program🌟 • LIVE workshops + tools+ homework • 1:1 Private Coaching with me. • Community with other like-minded people Limited spots - STARTS IN APRIL! APPLY NOW FOR A CONSULT CALL - LINK IN THE BIO . . . . #anxiousattachment #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #relationshipissues   #attachmenttrauma #anxietyhealing #datingproblems #dating101

When left unresolved, our past attachment wounds get carried into adult relationships because our partners become our 'new' attachment figures. They essentially become an “opportunity” for our attachment wounds to be healed. Instead, those who struggle with such anxious tendencies can use these moments of difficulty to learn more about themselves and move towards becoming more secure. —— If you struggle with anxious tendencies, and are serious about making changes, this program is for you. The Secure Love Program • Lessons, practical guidance + Homework • 1:1 coaching with me me. • Community with other like-minded people APPLY NOW - LINK IN BIO Enrolments close THIS FRIDAY 29th March . . . #anxiousattachment #attachmentissues #secureattachment #relationshipproblems #relationshiphealing #anxiousattachmentstyle #relationshipanxiety