Leanne Yau

I bet you didn’t know this - a person can identify as both #polyamorous and #aromantic! #Aromanticism is not experiencing romantic attraction, but that doesn’t mean someone can’t still have meaningful #relationships, especially more than one of them. Have you ever met an aromantic person, or someone who is on the ace/aro spectrum? #aspec #arospec If you want to watch the full video this clip is from, go to the l!nk in my b!o and join my P4TR30N to watch the full Q&A, as well as get a bunch of other exclusive perks only available to my private community of subscribers 🥳

We’re all about #communication and #consent in the #polyamorouscommunity! Everyone is on their own self-discovery journey and sometimes you’re just on different paths. That’s okay - love isn’t about possession, and compatibility is important for fulfilling relationships. Let go of what doesn’t work so you can each find what really makes you happy.

When a song becomes so much of an earworm that the only solution is to change the lyrics and play it until it gets out of your head. #toosweet #cover #polyamory #monogamy

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but… Sometimes, people just want different things. It doesn’t mean either of you are wrong to want those things, it just means your needs and #boundaries are incompatible. Of course, it is extremely hurtful when your partner evolves into a person who you don’t see yourself with anymore. I would never want to undermine that pain. But this kind of change doesn’t just happen for #monogamy/#polyamory - there are many couples who break up because, for example, they previously both thought they wanted kids, but one of them changed their mind later. Unfortunately, there is zero guarantee that your #Relationship will always stay the same and that you as people will always grow in the same direction. No one is the bad person here - people just evolve and change over time, and that is normal and unavoidable. Sometimes, that means you grow apart. That’s no one’s fault. You both deserve happiness even if it means you can’t do it together, or in the same way as before. And it is equally painful for both parties, not just the one who didn’t change, when that realisation hits. To love someone is to know when to let them go. And believe it or not, a #breakup can sometimes be the biggest demonstration of love. To be clear, when I deal with situations like this with my clients, I would never be so crass as to directly tell them what they should or shouldn’t do! This video is just a bit of humour. Ultimately everyone is on their own journey and I want my clients to feel empowered and self-motivated to effect the changes they want in their lives that they feel sure about. But if you’re in a place where you’re feeling unsure about the future of your relationship, or you just need a space to sort out your thoughts and talk to someone who gets it, book a chat with me and let’s talk 🤗

Have you ever misinterpreted an act of physical affection as romantic when it wasn’t intended that way? I’ve been there 😅 I talk about this more, and specifically how to negotiate healthy, unambiguous #casualrelationships while still authentically expressing physical affection, in my latest video on P4TR30N. On there I post multiple videos a month! What you saw here was a very small clip of a much longer video where I share intimate details from my personal life to illustrate the points and lessons I’m taking away. You know where to look to find it 😉 and feel free to share your personal experiences with an #fwb in the comments!

#Hierarchy in #polyamory is one of the most confusing debates in the community because we are NOT AGREED on a definition. From Joreth the Innkeeper defining “prescriptive” and “descriptive” hierarchy and then RETRACTING their statement in 2020 and saying they regretted ever coming up with those terms, to people confusing anchor, nesting and primary partners, it is always an interesting time to discuss this with anyone who is #nonmonogamous. How do you define it?