Ehsun Anwar

​This may sound contradictory, but there’s nothing “wrong” with a man who struggles to connect emotionally. He is not “broken” ​ ​Yet this kind of man does inflict enormous suffering on his partner and children. Who may need to take measures such as distance, or divorce, to protect themselves ​ ​Both of these realities are true, and seemingly contradictory. But they actually make perfect sense. Both men and women must come together in healing and understanding, if we want healthier and happier relationships ​ ​If men were not emotionally callous and violent, humanity would’ve gone extinct long ago. We are here today because we stood on their shoulders. So most men, myself included, have inherited millions of years worth of such conditioning. And now, there is an urgent need for us men to evolve in a direction that goes AGAINST all those years of evolution. It is extremely difficult. But only then can we bring more peace not only to our families, but to the whole planet 🌍 ​ ​☀️ Im so excited to launch the Peace Program this month. It will take both men and women into powerful inner healing. So we can have more joy and more love in our relationships, work life, and moment to moment living ☀️Click the link on my profile and register for my newsletter to be notified when places open ​ ​#relationships #relationshipgoals #Relationship #Love #selflove #men #man #mensfashion #masculine #masculino #divinemasculine #trauma #traumahealing #innerchild #couple #couplegoals #marriage #married #divorce #anxiety #stress #feminine #feminist #feminism #woman #women #emotional #emotions #datingadvice #innerpeace ​

Drop a comment below 👇🏽 if you have a family member, partner, or friend who does this a lot to you ​ ​Key points: ​ ​- We ALL do it to varying degrees, at times. But receiving regular gaslighting without you feeling seen and appreciated, is highly traumatizing. The essence of gaslighting is that there’s an energy of anger or denial in their voice, even if they use nice words. There’s a lack of genuine compassion for you and your feelings. This makes you doubt your own pain, your own reality, and creates low self esteem in you ​ ​- The person doing the gaslighting CAN absolutely heal and awaken. But you should never try to force this on them, you will only strengthen their defensive posture ​ ​- The best thing you can ever do for yourself is to heal your own wounds and nourish yourself with your own love, and a genuine connection to life. Then you will no longer need their approval. Nor will you be so hurt by their wounded ways. People simply cannot gaslight you when you become deeply conscious ❤️ ​ ​- It feels like heaven on earth as you become more self regulated and more in love with yourself, and in love with life ❤️🌎 Your presence alone begins to heal and awaken those around you ​ ​I will be teaching the above in my upcoming Peace Program 🕊️For couples, singles, and absolutely anybody, looking to create more peace within themselves ​ ​Simply visit my website and register for my free email live to get the program updates as soon as they’re released ​ ​#narcissist #narcissisticabuse #gaslighting #innerpeace #relationships #relationshipgoals #couples #couplesgoals #Love #selflove #marriage #married #men #man #masculine #divinemasculine #feminine #divinefeminine #anxiety #stress #overthinker #peoplepleaser #MentalHealth #trauma #traumahealing #heal #spiritualgrowth #california #divorce #losangeles ​

​Most women are conditioned to deeply mold to the reaction, and non-approval, of their parents. In a very different way to what men faced at that age ​ ​As a little girl her whole character would be judged as ungrateful, selfish, and not a “good girl”. Just because she was being a normal child with her own feelings and opinions. Or if she were to rightfully call out something negative happening in the family, she’d be criticized ​ ​She would then sense that mum / dad isn’t happy with me, and be forced to trade her truth, for their approval. She became performative and hyper-vigilant from those moments ​ ​This creates huge pain in her body, because she craved to feel LOVED and HELD more than anything else, just for who she is in her being ​ ​Whatever way that her childhood was volatile, becomes the character she now plays as an adult, to keep winning love and avoiding danger. And at the same time, she instinctively knows something is wrong deep down, yet was taught to doubt her intuition so continuously ignores it ​ ​This character she plays actually keeps her trauma alive, and even creates disease in her body, by running on a program that was designed for danger ​ ​❤️ If you are a man or woman who wants life altering healing, I invite you to my upcoming Peace Program. A profound journey with me for you to cultivate more inner peace, love, and connection in your life ​ ​☀️ Click the link on my profile page and register for my free email newsletter to be notified as soon as places open ☀️ ​ ​#woman #women #feminine #feminism #feminineenergy #fempreneur #relationships #relationshipgoals #Relationship #man #masculine #MentalHealth #innerpeace #innerchild #trauma #traumahealing #stress #anxiety #peoplepleaser #motherwound #daughter #Love #selflove #girlpower #brown #browngirlbloggers #indian #blackgirls #healing #positivevibes ​

​A woman’s heart is distinctly different to a man’s ​ ​There are feeling-threads that run from her heart to his. She always feels and responds to what he feels in his own energy. Even when he himself is unaware of what his energy contains, she is with him in all that he goes through ​ ​This creates a massive danger for women. A woman’s intuition can pick up whether he is being unloving and unfair toward her, and whether he is simply stressed and unhappy within himself. But because most men live in their head, they are totally unaware of their true energy. Even when it is blatantly negative or even abusive. And so their intellect immediately defends its position, and accuses her of being against him, or that she is wrong for wanting emotional safety ​ ​This is a tragedy, as a good woman only wants to see her man prosper. He will then see his biggest support in the whole world, as an enemy. He is seeing her through the lens of the criticism and emotional neglect he lived with as a child ​ ​If you are a man or woman who wants to do the important and life altering work of deep emotional healing, join me in the upcoming Peace Program ❤️ ​ ​☀️ An online safe space for you to learn how to bring profound peace, love, and connection into every area of your life. Register now for my email newsletter to be notified when places open (the link is on my profile) ☀️ ​ ​#relationships #relationshipgoals #Relationship #couple #couplegoals #couples #marriage #married #men #man #masculine #masculinitymonday #masculino #feminine #feminism #MentalHealth #innerchild #healing #dating #toxicrelationships #emotional #emotionalintelligence #trauma #traumahealing #stress #anxiety #intimacy #happiness #california #losangeles ​

​A woman’s deepest pleasure is knowing that he is in touch with his primal power, AND with his heart. He is balanced 👌🏽With strength, and a soft receptivity. He taps into both the intellect (masculine), and also emotional intelligence (feminine) ​ ​He can FEEL her expressions through her words, right into her heart. Nothing can make her feel more seen, more safe than this. His energy tells her deep in her body: “If you fall, I will catch you”. He knows his power, and hence would never see her as competition or a threat ​ ​A man lost in trauma will instead collapse inside when she expresses her emotions or any unhappiness, because ultimately he is self absorbed. His needs and defenses are more important than her safety. She can sense this on a deep level, which is terrifying for her. Now she knows she has to sensor her words to avoid triggering him ​ ​☀️ If you are a man or a woman who wants to deeply heal this dynamic, I will be teaching it in my upcoming Peace Program ☀️ ​ ​Go to my website and register for my free email newsletter to be notified when the details are out 🔥 ​ ​#masuline #divinemasculine #masculino #men #man #menstyle #women #woman #divinefeminine #feminine #feminism #relationships #relationshipgoals #couples #Love #selflove #happy #marriage #married #divorce #innerpeace #trauma #traumahealing #MentalHealth #stress #anxiety #dating #california #losangeles #la ​ ​ ​

This is happening all over the world. Women are awakening rapidly and realising that they deserve respect, affection, and emotional connection ❤️Many men are also waking up, but we need to accelerate the process. Awakened men not only make their woman feel safe, but also stop humanity from self destructing ​ ​There is no black and white solution for those in a difficult relationship ​ ​But one thing stands absolutely true: healing yourself, will always bring about the best result for you. Nobody should be overly focused on their partner, as this only adds to the friction and bypasses your own healing ​ ​The hallmark of healing is that you become less resentful, lonely, and demanding of your partner to change. A real peace develops inside of you 🕊️ and this normally has a very positive effect on your partner, as you become less critical, and more joyful ​ ​Your partner may then be inspired to follow in your steps ​ ​But not everyone is ready for love, for peace. Unfortunately some are too far in the grip of their trauma and want to keep fighting, defending, blaming, and being miserable ​ ​☀️ In my upcoming Peace Program, I will take you on a powerful journey of inner healing to produce life altering shifts inside of you ☀️To bring more love into your relationships, your work life, and a moment to moment peace that translates into more general happiness and wisdom ​ ​Click the link on my profile page to sign up for my newsletter and be notified as soon as places open ​ ​#woman #women #womenempowerment #feminine #feminineenergy #motherwound #fatherwound #feminism #trauma #traumahealing #innerchild #stress #anxiety #MentalHealth #innerchild #innerpeace #healing #spiritualgrowth #peoplepleaser #empath #narcissist #relationships #relationshipgoals #marriage #married #Love #selflove #masculine #divinefeminine #men #positivevibes ​

To be clear, we all have narcissistic traits. But when a partner or parent has lots of them, the damage is devastating ​ ​We normalise not speaking our truth, putting our needs last, and expecting worst case scenarios. Both the anxious and avoidant attachment style can stem from having a narcissistic parent or partner ​ ​This sets a blueprint for our lives where we manifest disfunctional relationships that resemble the one our parents had (or the one we had with them, or had with our previous partner). ​ ​It also shows up in our careers. We chase achievements and validation to feel the love and importance we never got from the parent who wounded us. ​ ​Narcissistic people themselves mostly had a narcissistic parent/caretaker growing up. When you go through proper healing, on an energetic and biological level (not just intellectual), you reach a height of awareness and compassion that sets you free. You realise that a treasure chest of peace lived within you this whole time ☀️You carry no resentment for the one who hurt you. Resentment is a sign more healing is required, but do not judge yourself for it ​ ​The divine purpose of trauma and suffering is to help us transcend into more unity, love, and bliss ❤️ ​ ​⭐️ In April or May I will be launching the Peace Program ⭐️ an online safe space which will teach you in depth all of the above. It will be a comprehensive program covering multiple areas of life, all for the purpose of bringing more peace into your life 🕊️ ​ ​Visit my website and sign up to my free email lifeletter to be notified when registration opens ​ ​#narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #gaslighting #enabler #MentalHealth #trauma #traumahealing #innerchild #innerpeace #peace #Love #selflove #relationships #stress #anxiety #overthinking #motherwound #fatherwound #masculino #feminism #healing #positivity #couples #marriage #california #losangeles #la #newyork #nyc ​