Sofia Kochanova

Tell me your story❤️‍🩹 From "I love you" to "strangers," it's wild how things change? One moment, you're all wrapped up in each other, and the next, you're like two ships passing in the night. But that's life! Sometimes people drift apart, and before you know it, you're just strangers again, sharing nothing but a few memories. Even though it hurts, it's all part of the journey🫶🏼 ##healingprocess##healingtrauma##selfloveclub##selflovetips##breakups##breakupstages##findingjoy

Why do breakups have to be so hard? Waking up without his text sting. Wrestling with guilt in heart, trying to let go of someone you still love, but you can't move forward. He says he wants to be alone, he doesn't want to be with you anymore, he wants to figure things out. Just gotta remind yourself time heals, no matter how rough it feels now. No matter how hard you try you'll never understand why he had to leave. Even though you gave him all the support and love. Just remember youre world is still going❤️‍🩹

How TO HELP yourself?❤️‍🩹 I have one method called “reality check” that will help you if you are still stuck in a breakup: *Reality Check: ————————- Are you still feeling stuck in your breakup? i would encourage you to further define what “STUCK” means. 1. Do you still think about your ex? Btw, that’s completely normal. 2. Are you still crying on a daily basis? that might mean you need to take your healing to a deeper level. 3. Do you feel stuck because you feel lonely? then i’d encourage you to spend more time with other people. 4. You feel stuck because you’re angry? then i’d encourage you to do some work to let go of resentment. 5. Do you feel stuck because you’re feeling like you’re never going to find someone? then i’d encourage you to focus on increasing your self-esteem. And most importantly: ‼️There isn’t a solution to just being stuck, BUT…. TO READ THE REST CHECK MY ln$tа! #healingprocess #healingtrauma #selfloveclub #breakups #selflove #selflovetips #relationshipadvice #healingtok #relationshipadvice

You are so strong, you can do it! Just dobt forget to show up for yourself every day! you deserve to be happy❤️‍🩹 ##selfloveclub##healingprocess##mentalhealthtiktoks##selflovery##mentalhealing##relatabletextpost

Before you-During you - -After you! #healingprocess #healingtrauma #selfloveclub #selflovetips #breakupadvice #closure #findingjoy #breakupstages

How did you get out of the toxic relationship? Here is my story: When I met him, I thought I had met the love of my life, my soulmate. Sadly, the key word is "THOUGHT". I'm not gonna lie, there were a lot of red flags from the very beginning, but they didn't seem major at the time. The red flags, such as controlling and sometimes aggressive behavior, I would just close my eyes to. As time went by, the aggression grew, and it seemed as if he fully took control over my life. It felt like I wasn’t the one in charge. I couldn’t make any decisions for myself, I wasn’t allowed to have friends, and every time I would do something without telling him, he would yell and threaten me. That was my life for 2 years. I didn’t really share what was going on with anyone. I was just quietly living in hell. When it got to the point where I lost any excitement for life, when waking up in the morning felt like a punishment and my depression reached the top, I made a decision that I needed to get out. I will be honest, I wasn’t able to leave right away. For several months I was stuck between leaving him and then coming back. It was very hard to fully separate myself. For some reason, I kept believing that there is a chance that it all will change, he will change. But that was the stupidest thing I ever thought of. People who don’t want to change will never change! One day, I gave myself a promise that this time I will leave and never come back. I promised myself to never talk or communicate with that person. I made a decision to fully cut him out of my life. And it worked. Yes it was hard, yes it was painful, yes it felt like I would never be happy again or I would ever be able to feel any emotions except sadness and negativity. But I was wrong. After some time, I stopped constantly crying. After some more time, I found passion, inspiration, and motivation for work. And then, I found myself again. I found a better and a stronger version of myself. Yes, it was a long and difficult journey. But I’m so proud of myself for not giving up on myself. I’m proud that I was able to find strength within myself to overcome everything. Right now I feel truly happy, I have so many goals and dreams. And I cannot wait for everything that is waiting for me in the future. If I was able to do it, you can too! I BELIEVE IN YOU! You are strong! Do it for yourself. Trust me it is so so worth it! #healingtrauma #breakups #breakuphealing #selflovetips #breakupclosure #closure #findingjoy #breakupadvice #heartbreaking

👇🏼I want to share MY PERSONAL NOTE that I wrote to my self right after the breakup❤️‍🩹 I can’t believe this is happening. It feels like my whole world is crashing down around me. He was everything to me, my favorite person in the entire world. And now, now he’s lost interest. How did I not see it coming? How did I not realize that the spark was fading? It’s like someone ripped out a piece of my heart and left this gaping hole inside me.l keep replaying all our memories in my head, trying to figure out where it all went wrong. Was it something I said? Something I did? Or was it just inevitable, destined to end like this from the beginning? The pain is suffocating, consuming me from the inside out.I thought he was the one, the one I would spend the rest of my life with. But now, now I’m left here alone, trying to pick up the pieces of my shattered heart. How do I move on from this? How do I learn to live without him?But I have to try. I have to find a way to heal, to mend my broken soul. It won’t be easy, and the road ahead seems daunting, but I know I’m stronger than I realize. I have to remind myself that this pain won’t last forever, that one day, I’ll look back on this moment and see it as a distant memory. I’ll take it one day at a time, allowing myself to feel the pain but also finding moments of joy in the little things. I’ll surround myself with friends and family who love me unconditionally, who will support me through this dark time. And most importantly, I’ll focus on loving myself, on rediscovering who I am outside of this relationship.It won’t be easy, but l’ll get through this. I’ll emerge from the darkness stronger and more resilient than ever before. And one day, !’ll find someone who sees my worth, who cherishes me as much as I cherish them. But for now, I’ll take it slow, trusting that time will heal this broken heart of mine. #healingtrauma #breakups #breakuphealing #selflovetips #breakupclosure #closure #findingjoy #breakupadvice #heartbreaking

How is your healing process going? ❤️‍🩹 I never thought that I would be able to be fine again. Breaking up with the person you thought was made for you, your best friend, your everything, is hard. Recovering from it is even harder. But I had a goal; I was desperate to find happiness again. I always believed that I deserve to be happy. I decided to pull myself together and trust the process. Finding yourself isn’t just about figuring out who you are, but also about becoming who you want to be. And you can become whoever you want❤️‍🩹 #healingprocess #healingtrauma #selfloveclub #endofrelationship #selfloveclub #endofrelationship #relationshipadvice #selflovetips

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Just trust me, you’ll be fine. ❤️‍🩹 During my healing journey, I learned many different methods, techniques, and exercises that helped me heal from heartbreak and move on faster. If you are interested in learning more about it, sеnd mе а DМ! There was a time when I thought, 'That's it.' I thought there was absolutely nothing left for me. I was scared and very depressed. No family to go to, no friends to cry on whose shoulder. I was alone, feeling trapped in a constant cycle of bad things that dug me deeper and deeper. One day, I was scrolling on social media, seeing those beautiful, successful women. And I thought to myself, if they were able to do it, I can do it too. I decided to try to reprogram my brain to think differently. Simply put, I decided to trust myself. And soon after I was able to fully trust myself, my life slowly started to shift. And now, I am happier and successful than I have ever been🫶🏼💪🏼 #healingprocess #healingtrauma #selfloveclub #breakups #selflove #findingjoy #relationshipadvice #selflovetips

After the breakup, I found myself at the lowest point in my life. I didn’t want anything at all. My career seemed to be going downhill, I felt depressed, and had no motivation for doing anything other than lying in bed all day, thinking how unlucky and miserable I was. This was all happening until I discovered that we get what we choose. Instead of blaming everyone and everything, hating myself and my life, I simply accepted it. I realized that the reason I ended up at that point in my life is because I, myself, made certain decisions and took certain steps that led me here. I made a decision to change my life. The first thing I realized is that I have to stop fighting against this world because, as my experience showed, I was losing every time. Second, instead of constantly fighting, I simply started living. Something in me knew, if I was the one who brought myself here, I could take myself anywhere I wanted to in life. I sat down and wrote/drew down the life I wanted to have, then grabbed my own hand and started walking myself toward my dream life. Months later, I finally found it, and I can confidently say I was never happier than I am now! #healingjourneys #selflovetips #selflovery #healingtrauma #findyourpath #dreamlife

Таg a friend who needs to hear this❤️‍🩹 After the early stages of my breakup passed, and I fully embarked on my healing journey to find joy and happiness in life, the main question that kept bothering me and didn’t allow me to fully move on was, “Why didn’t I get closure?” Unfortunately, I couldn’t find an answer. I decided to ignore the question that I didn’t have an answer to, but I quickly realized that without an answer, I wouldn’t be able to move on fully, probably ever. Every day, I would revisit that question, trying to figure out what was happening inside his brain. I started looking for a solution, reading books, listening to podcasts, and talking to psychologists. After extensive research and trying different methods, I finally figured out how to get an answer to my question without them saying it to me or getting inside their head. The answer is simple: The best closure after a breakup is knowing that you actually already have it without them saying it to you. They won’t find someone better, just someone DIFFERENT and BETTER SUITED for them. It doesn’t define your worth; it means you deserve someone who aligns better with your values and personality. You were just not compatible; You were not meant for each other. With his actions, he told you that he doesn’t want you! But it’s not because something is wrong with you or you are not enough. It’s because he is the wrong person for you, and he just needs someone different, just like you! #healingprocess #healingtrauma #selfloveclub #selflovetips #breakupadvice #findingjoy #closure #breakuphealing

Healing takes time🫶🏼 In my case I learned that breaking up with someone can feel like the end of the world, leaving you shattered and lost. Depression. But as time passes, wounds heal, and scars fade, you begin to realize that the pain doesn't define you. Each day becomes a step towards healing, towards rediscovering yourself and your worth. Self-love. Eventually, you emerge stronger, wiser, and more resilient than before. The journey through heartbreak may be tough, but time is a gentle healer, slowly stitching the pieces back together, reminding you that even after the worst heartbreak, you can rise again. #healingprocess #healingtrauma #selfloveclub #selflovetips #breakups #breakupstages #breakupglowup #findingjoy

3 THINGS that helped me get through the FIRST PHASE of a breakup and heal faster❤️‍🩹 These three things served as my starting point on my healing journey when I did not know where to start. I’ve come a long way since then, conducting extensive research and reading many books to regain my happiness, find myself, my path, discover what I truly want from this life, start loving myself, and become unbreakable. Now I can confidently say that I have regained my happiness, found peace, and started loving myself like never before. If you are going through a breakup and are just at the beginning of your healing journey, feeling lost, broken, and confused, I’m here for you! Follow me to learn about all the tricks and methods I discovered along the way. I will share my journey and all the hidden secrets to living a truly happy life! #healingjourneys #selflovetips #selflovery #healingtrauma #findyourpath #breakupmotivation #breakupadvice

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5 signs to end the relationship‼️ Share other signs that you've experienced that signify that you should end the relationship?! #healingprocess #healingtrauma #selfloveclub #endofrelationship #relationshipadvice #selflovetips #breakupadvice #closure

‼️5 main stages of a breakup‼️ 1️⃣ DENIAL. This is the first stage for many people after a breakup. It’s refusing to acknowledge that the relationship has ended. It’s like trying to convince yourself that everything’s still fine, even though deep down, you know things have changed. You believe that you and your partner will get back together. But the relationship is done, you have to stop feeding yourself with delusional excuses. 2️⃣ Anger. When the reality of the breakup sets in, we begin to feel anger. This could be anger towards the partner for leaving, breaking your heart, or towards yourself for not being good enough and blaming yourself for everything 3️⃣ Bargaining. At this stage, we try to bargain with fate, ourselves, or our ex-partner, promising to change and fix everything if only the relationship could be restored. 4️⃣ Depression. When we realize that the relationship has ended, deep sadness or depression sets in. It’s a natural response to loss, and it’s important to allow yourself to feel these emotions. 5️⃣ Acceptance. This is the final stage of breakup, where we accept the separation and are ready to move forward. It doesn’t mean that the ex-partner is forgotten or that the pain has completely gone away. It’s absolutely normal to be at the 5th stage and still have feelings for that person or sometimes feel emotional. Remember, healing from a breakup it’s a process that takes time! However, during this stage, you have to push yourself to start a new chapter in life, and finally choose yourself. #healingprocess #healingtrauma #selfloveclub #selflovetips #breakups #breakupstages #breakupglowup #findingjoy

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