Lori Wheeler

Love and limerence are not the same thing. Love is often confused with attachment and limerence. Many people think that because they love somebody or they really like somebody that they should equally like them back and that’s not how life works not everybody is gonna like you just because you like them and if if you feel the need to try to force that it is Limerence or attachment Love itself is autonomous it’s peaceful it’s calm and it’s accepting that that person may or may not be in your life forever and sometimes their journey may not include you, but you love them and you want to see them flourish anyway . ##limerence##Love##attachment##loriwheeler##selfesteem##autonomy

If someone makes you feel as though you need to defend yourself, its a form of emotional manipulation. When someone wants to insert dominance its emotional manipulation. Power steuggle is manipulation. Do mot allw yourself to be baited i to their web. There is no response that gives you the desired outcome you want. #emotionalmanipulation #confidence #loriwheeler #wellbeing #boundaries

Let them win the day. Let them believe whatever they want to believe. The more you engage the more your insecurity of needing to be understood arises. Let them win the day while you win at life. If the minions believe them then let them all wallow together. #selfconfidence #smearcampaigns #loriwheeler #selfconfidence

You may feel as though you have to give your side or react on the spot. When you work on your confidence and realize that many people just want to bait you into a conversation then you will stop engaging with them at all. It’s OK to take a minute and think in process what it is that you have to say or what you want to get across before reacting the key is to respond and not react, and that comes with emotional maturity and emotional intelligence, and most certainly confidence. #confidence #loriwheeler #emotionalintelligence #communication #innerpeace

You have got to stop walking around, apologizing for things that are best for you. You should never ever feel guilty about protecting your peace and putting yourself as your first priority. Embrace being the villain in their story, loving who you want, practicing whatever spiritual practice that you wanna practice and living your best life on how you define it with their validation. #growthmindset ##loriwheeler##protectyourpeace##confidence

You are allowed to block and distance from things and people who are not serving your best and highest good. You don’t need to give an explanation . You are also allowed to monitor your socials. If you don’t like the comment than delete it. No need to stress yourself on socials or in your life. What you allow is what continues. Don’t apologize for protecting uour peace. #selfconfidence #boundaries #loriwheeler #mindfulness #balance

The moment that you engage with anybody who is coming in hot, and they’re trying to put you on the defensive is the moment that you’ve lost all control of any part of this conversation. Stop trying to get your point across to someone who only wants to win they want to be heard because they feel entitled to be heard and entitled to have you defend yourself hard pass don’t engage . ##defensive##maintainyourpower##loriwheeler##selfconfidence##ignore

When you get activated by someone else’s opinion of you its because you may have an unfavorable feeling about yourself. Utilize that insecurity so you understand where it is that you still need to work on when it comes to your own self healing. So you can use them as a teachable moment that highlights a wound that you still need to heal, but don’t value the opinion of you ##selfconfidence##insecurity##loriwheeler##confidence##triggers

Stop oversharing. Everyone doesn’t need to know everything. When you overshare, you open yourself up for debate and discouragement. Keep your goals and plans close to the vest until you’re ready to let them in. No one is entitled to know your moves. #oversharing #loriwheeler #innerpeace #boundaries

Stop taking peoples actions and words personal. It may feel as though it’s a personal attack but it’s always about the person who is insecure and feels the need to try to pull somebody else down. Don’t let their insecurity or your expectations of them dictate defending yourself or trying to figure out there why it’s not your issue and don’t take it personal as hard as it feels as though it’s a personal tack it’s all about them and their own stuff . ##confidence##notpersonal##loriwheeler##selfimprovement##selfconfidence

Do not ever engage with contentious people. When someone is contentious, they love to argue. They love to stir the pot. Everything has to be a debate. Everything has to be an attack from them. smile at them block as you can disengage do not take it personally if that’s what they need to win the day then that’s a very limited world in which they live. Let them win the day in their low vibrational world you stay high vibrational smile, and keep it moving . ##highvibration##loriwheeler##combative##fixedmindset##protectyourpeace