# attachmenttheory

🚨LIVE Program for anxious lovers - Enrolling now! LINK IN BIO🚨 When triggered, anxiously-attached lovers tend to over-focus on the negatives or even look for problems in their relationship in an attempt to prevent their biggest fear from happening; abandonment.  Where does this come from? They typically grew up with inconsistent and unreliable parents, leading them as children to wonder: “Can I depend on you?” “Do you love me?” They never felt *quite* safe or secure growing up, creating abandonment beliefs:  “People aren’t going to be there for me.” “I’m not worthy of their love.” If left unresolved, these beliefs get carried INTO one’s adulthood. Deep down, anxious partners subconsciously hope their partners will fill the void by consistently reassuring and loving them, no matter what (even if the behaviors are detrimental).  “If I point out problems and they still love me, that means I am lovable, and they won’t leave me.” Most partners will do their best to reassure their love, but this isn’t healthy or sustainable. It will ultimately wear down the relationship, which sadly CONFIRMS anxious lovers’ worst fear; abandonment. The good news is that attachment styles can change. Some things you can do: - Making sense of yourself by connecting past experiences with current behaviors. - Learning how to soothe our anxiety. - Developing a loving relationship with our inner child. - Learning how to communicate our feelings/needs in a secure way. ——- Do you want to break your anxious patterns and become secure in yourself and therefore in your relationship? 🌟Then the 'Secure Love Program' is for you!🌟 * LIVE workshops + tools + homework. * 1:1 Private Coaching with me. * Community with other like-minded people. Limited spots. Starting soon.  APPLY + BOOK A CONSULT CALL, USING LINK IN BIO. . . . #anxiousattachment #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #relationshipissues #attachmenttheory #relationshipproblems #datingproblems #attachmentissues #attachmentstyle