My new book “HOW TO BE THE LOVE YOU SEEK” will help you regulate your nervous system and heal from complex trauma #cptsdawareness #childhoodtrauma #complexptsd #cptsd
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Emotional monitoring happens when we consistently ask “are you ok?” “are you upset?” “did I do something wrong?” Even when a person answers that they’re fine, we keep asking. Why? Because we’re in a state of hypervigilance. And to monitor another person’s emotions is our attempt to stay safe. When we ask: “are you ok?” We really mean AM I OK? This is naturally when we were raised by unpredictable, inconsistent, or emotionally reactive parents who had us walking on egg shells. Do you notice this? #selfhealers #childhoodtrauma #emotionalmonitoring
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Secure attachment is developed from parents who take accountability, have the ability to self reflect, and who allow their children to develop autonomy. Did YOU decelop secure attachment #secureattachment #attachmentstyles #trauma #childhoodtrauma
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Avoidant partners are easily put into shut down mode. Even “can we talk” can trigger their fight or flight response. This is why pseudo-positivity is used. It’s a way to say “focus on the good” or “can’t you just be happy?” This is a way to deflect deeper issues and to stay in denial— a hallmark trait of people with avoidant attachment. DO YOU SEE THIS IN YOUR PARTNER #avoidantattachment #childholdtrauma #selfhealers
Anxious attachment creates a need for intense closeness in order to feel safe. This can create hypervigilance in relationships where there’s stress or anxiety if they perceive a partner pulling away or needing any space #selfhealers